your family is your primary ministry
Mark Driscoll pointed out an LA Times story on the broken relationship and discongruous theological views of Chuck Smith [founder of the Calvary Chapel movement]... and his son. The key line in this article:
"To his older son, he was more elusive: "He wasn't present emotionally, even if he was present physically. To hear him speak, you just get the impression this is such a warm and intimate person, but the closer you got to him, the more you'd realize he really didn't have those intimacy skills."
I'm not trying to point out flaws... just cautioning other pastors and church planters to put their kids before their ministries.