While it was difficult to publicly share about the trials Stephanie and I have faced, it was very rewarding to be given the chance to possibly help save others from the pain we've gone through. The goal of my talk was to give the Kern Scholars a list of things they can do to protect themselves from sin and the failures that too many pastors end up committing. I hope to adapt the talk into an article in the near future. I'll post it all when it is written. Until then, here is a summary of the tips....
1. Believe you are broken
Romans - For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.
2. Trust in the value of marital transparency
Genesis – And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
3. Understand the process is painful
John 12:24 – Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.
4. Consider Christian counseling
Proverbs 19:20 - Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.
5. Share your struggles with someone
James 5:16 - Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.
6. Build your boundaries
Proverbs - The highway of the upright turns aside from evil; whoever guards his way preserves his life.
7. Stay away from dangerous situations
1 Timothy - But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.8. Cling to Christ
Psalm 63:8 - My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me.