Sermon Prep Left-overs on Marriage

One of the biggest lizards I’ve struggled to kill is my selfishness. Like the old Subway slogan and Frank Sinatra song says, “I want it my way. But the Bible teaches something different.

In Ephesians 5:25 the Apostle Paul writes:
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Men, do you know what a high calling this is?!

Matt Chandler is the Pastor of a place called The Village Church way down south in another country called Texas, and he said something very profound about this text. He said, that of all the commands in the Bible, the command for men to love their wives like Christ loved the church, is quite possible the most difficult to keep faithfully. I think he is dead on.

Women and wives her today, please don’t think I am leaving you out.There are plenty of high callings for you. In fact, just before the text I read in Ephesians is a verse that says:
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
And 1 Peter 3:1 teaches,
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
So, women, don’t think I’m leaving you out. But from my experience, it is my conviction that if men stand up and lead and serve in a godly manner, reflective of our Lord Jesus, it is not hard for a woman to submit to him. In fact, it is an honor and privilege and joy for a wife to live with her husband in this way.

This puts it back on us husbands!Guys we are called to be servant-kings of our wives.They are not called to be the King’s servants.