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7 Behaviour's for Effective Discipline

I have been listening to a great talk from the Resurgence's Biblical Parenting Conference by Dr. Ted Tripp called "An Overview of Corrective Discipline". He has written the book Shepherding a Child's Heart which I have added to my Christmas list, as should every parent.

Here are some notes I took on Dr. Tripp's teaching about discipline.

The central verse on discipline is,
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” - Eph. 6:1-3 (ESV)
As parent, we want our child to obey us because when they do they will experience safety and goodness in their life. When our children do not obey they are placing themselves outside the promise of life going well for them. Disobedience puts children in danger of all kinds.

Therefore, we never punish from an attitude of anger or power-tripping, rather, our discipline is always a labor of love because we want what is best for our child. Discipline is restoring the child to a safe place after they have put themselves in danger.

So how do we discipline...

1. Discipline is done in private. A child should never feel shame or embarrassment when being disciplined.

2. Discipline is specific. The child must know exactly what offense they are being disciplined for.

3. A parent should secure an acknowledgment from the child. This means the child confirms they committed the wrong and protects the parent for disciplining the wrong person.

4. The child should be reminded of the purpose of discipline. "I love you and I am disciplining you because you have disobeyed Daddy and life will not go well for you if you continue like this.

5. Tell the child exactly how many swats they will receive and make it reasonable for the transgression.

6. Don't lose the point of spanking through the padding of the pants.

7. Restoration. Tell the child you love them and pray for/with them after they have been disciplined.
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