Showing posts from August, 2009

The Importance of Date Night for Married Couples

Almost every book/blog I have ever read on developing a lasting marriage and preventing sins of all kinds in the marriage relationship, has included the idea of having a regular date night. The frequency varies, but the theme is consistent: men and women who continue to date continue to mate, and continue to deepen the bonds of intimacy and attraction that first brought them together.

There are all kinds of reasons people give for not having a date night. No time, no money, and no baby-sitter are among the most popular. But let me ask you this, "If your spouse confessed to having an affair would you concede it was OK because, after all, you never dated each other after the wedding day because, after all, you didn't have the time, the money, or a baby-sitter for the kids?"

Stephanie and I have not been great about having a regular date night, but we're working on it (we're going out tonight - YEAH!) because we believe in it, and we believe our marriage matters en…

What's with the LPGA girls at the Solheim Cup

Last week the United States defeated Europe in the Solheim Cup. If you are wondering, "What is the Solheim Cup?" don't feel bad. You are in the majority of people who know nothing about women's golf.

The Solheim Cup is like the Ryder Cup (a men's golf competition) in that it pits top female golfer's from the United States and Europe against one another in a four day competition. Each team has a captain who determines playing partners and match-ups, and the teams are awarded points for winning different events. Like the Ryder Cup, the Solheim Cup had the potential to be an exciting change of pace for female golf. By bringing many of the world's best player together to play in a competitive event the LPGA had the potential to generate new fans to the sport of women's golf. Unfortunately I don't think that will happen.

For one thing the pace of play was extremely low. So slow that some commentators and bloggers are referring to it as the Slow-h…

The Decline of Gen-X Church Services and an Exhortation to Young Men

Collin Hansen (author of Young, Restless, Reformed: A Journalist's Journey with the New Calvinists) has put together an interesting piece for Leadership Journal detailing the rise and fall of Gen X/20-something ministries in churches. He interviews multiple church leaders who are involved, or who have been involved, with these focus-group type ministries. Justin Buzzard is a blogger and pastor I follow and he had an awesome quote in the article,
"My very strong opinion is that twenty-somethings want and desperately need someone to yell at them from the Bible," Buzzard said. "They need a pastor, an authoritative voice in their life who will stand up and proclaim God's Word, to proclaim the gospel."I'm always saying that this is a prime, ripe season in your life to catch a vision for God and get centered on Christ. The choices and decisions you're making during this decade are setting a trajectory for the rest of your life. The older you get, the har…

Rapid Fire Christian Living

Rapid Fire Christian Living*
- encourage one another and build one another up (v.11)
- respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you (12)
- to esteem them very highly in love because of their work (13)
- be at peace among yourselves (13)
- admonish the idle (14)
- encourage the fainthearted (14)
- help the weak (14)
- be patient with all (14)
- no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone (15)
- rejoice always (16)
- pray without ceasing (17)
- give thanks in all circumstances (18)
- do not quench the Spirit (19)
- do not despise propheciesbut test everything; hold fast what is good (20-21)
-abstain from every form of evil (22)

*Christian thought, like any religious thought, can easily become a succession of DOs and DON'Ts. There is a tendency in the heart and mind of man to create a moral checklist of what God does and doesn't approve. The next step is to fall into the trap of thinking salvation and sanctifica…

Manhood and Young Marriage

Al Mohler discussing Mark Regnerus' (who wrote the 2007 book, Forbidden Fruit: Sex and Religion in the Lives of American Teenagers (Oxford University Press) assertion that Christian men and women should more strongly consider 'marrying earlier.' Here's a quote:
The most important contribution made by Mark Regnerus is to raise this issue in such a bold way. He is certainly correct when he asserts that the church "has already ceded plenty of intellectual ground in its marriage-mindedness." Beyond this, he is even more profoundly right when he argues that "while sex matters, marriage matters more." As he observes, "The importance of Christian marriage as a symbol of God's covenantal faithfulness to his people -- and a witness to the future union of Christ and his bride -- will only grow in significance as the wider Western culture diminishes both the meaning and actual practice of marriage. Marriage itself will become a witness to the gospel.&…

Summer Vacation Highlights

My family is blessed to have some good friends in Michigan who have adopted us as children and invite us to spend vacation with them every summer. Although we sadly didn't make it last summer, we have been making up for lost time over the course of the last 8 days. Here are some of the highlights:

- stopping to eat in Wisconsin Dells and seeing the tigers at the Kalahari Resort
- walking around the Woodfield Mall in IL and getting some Gino's East Pizza
- swimming in the pool and watching the increasing courage and maturation of our children (swimming, diving for objects, jumping off the deck and the diving board, playing water basketball, riding a slide down into the pool)
- driving the battery powered John Deere tractor (which Jacob calls the 'derby car')
- driving the big, red real-life tractor
- bonfire w/ smores
- watching Isabelle bond with Grandpa Dan and pick veggies from the garden
- feeding Nikita (the horse) apple and carrots
- seeing Dad injury himself trying a flip…

C.S. Lewis on Male Headship

I was talking with a friend tonight about male headship; interestingly enough I came across this post tonight from Desiring God. Awesome and challenging words on the topic.
This quote comes from one of C. S. Lewis's last books, published in 1960, The Four Loves. In it we hear the wise fruit of a lifetime. The husband is the head of the wife just in so far as he is to her what Christ is to the Church. He is to love her as Christ loved the church—read on—and gave his life for her (Ephesians 5:25). This headship, then, is most fully embodied not in the husband we should all wish to be but in him whose marriage is most like a crucifixion; whose wife receives most and gives least, is most unworthy of him, is—in her own mere nature—least lovable. For the church has no beauty but what the bridegroom gives her; he does not find, but makes her, lovely. The chrism [anointing, consecration] of this terrible coronation is to be seen not in the joys of any man's marriage but in its sor…

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Life Update

- bad news from the dentist today...need a root canal and crown!
- had a great run tonight
- good food and friends in town tonight from MI
- last 3 golf rounds have been brutal...can't putt or hit an iron to save my life let alone par
- mock interviews at work bombed two weeks ago
- blessed to preach at Waseca Congregational the last 3 Sundays...if you need a fill in let me know!
- looking forward to some vacation in MI starting Monday