Someone I work with shared with me some very personal stories about their upbringing and, specifically, the way certain destructive behaviors and choices keep tumbling down from generation to generation. My comment to her was, "It could stop with you."
Maybe those are words you need to be encouraged with. "It could stop with you."
I don't think it is even arguable that sin has a way of passing its pollution on. All of earth's fathers and mothers are tainted by sin, and in some measure pass on their brokenness to their children. And those children to their children. Exodus chapter 20 seems to point to this when, speaking about idolatry, the Lord says, "You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me."
But notice the last 5 words of that text: of those who hate me. When we accept our sinfulness and repent, when we open the door of our heart and invite Jesus Christ to come in, he begins cleaning up the junk in our heart, room by room, until the entire place is clean. That is what the theological term of sanctification implies. God transforms us and makes us the people we were designed to be. And as this happens the iniquities of our fathers can be forgiven, the thoughts and behaviors that were ingrained in us can be wiped away, and the shackles of sin can be removed.
What sin, what behavior, what false thought, what godless paradigm, what idol, what addiction, needs to stop with you?
Jesus will make that happen. Promise.