Is Being Famous a Key Element to Being Happy?
This is an amazingly accurate description of the way many people think. In his Huffington Post article, “Our Insatiable Desire for Fame” Mike Robbins writes,
While most of us assume we wouldn't go to the same lengths [omit] people [do] in order to get attention and [while] not all of us have a secret fantasy to be the star of our own reality TV show, there does seem to be a collective belief in our culture that becoming famous and well-known is an important goal and a key element to being successful and fulfilled in life. No matter how many big examples we've seen over the years to the contrary, many of us still get caught up in the elusive and ego-driven chase of fame. And, even though some of us have no specific desire to be "famous," most of us think that if we had that (more money, greater influence, better body, perfect relationship, enhance ability, more exposure, etc.) then we'd be happy or feel like we'd made it.
When I look at this issue for myself, I notice that the driving force behind my own desire for "fame" (or any of the other external achievements I erroneously think will make me feel accomplished or successful) is a fear that who I am and what I'm doing isn't quite good enough. When we tell the truth to ourselves, most of us have some version of this fear and a deep-seeded belief that we're fundamentally flawed. This isn't something we usually bring up at cocktail parties or even admit to the people close to us (or to ourselves). However, when we're really honest about it, our own feelings of inadequacy are what drive a lot of our behaviors, particularly the most debilitating, inauthentic, and destructive ones.