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What Every Young Man Should Know

This is an excerpt from a well-written and some what humorous article on Skills Every Young Man Should Know.  I am compiling a list for my own boys and I found many of the things in this article useful to incorporate.  The list of skills comes from the work of Robert Littell in 1933.  There is way too much in the article to share here, but these two paragraphs on learning how to 'take a walk' interested me.
Walking is a noble but neglected sport. Americans “hike” once in a long while but seldom walk. And hiking easily becomes hitch-hiking. The automobile, organized athletics, and the fact that American cities and American suburbs are dismal places to walk in have caused American feet to abandon the roads. For every climber in an American national park–some of which are quite as beautiful as any Alps–there are ten “hikers,” fifty who “pack” on horses, and ten thousand who survey the wonders of nature from the windows of a sedan.  Walking in this country is a lost cause, yet wal…

8 Ideas for Getting the Most from Your Time

Who among us doesn't wish they could get more done with the precious little time they have during the day? I know being efficient and organized with my time could help me out a lot. The demands between my walk with God, my leadership in the home, my parentings, my workplace, and my involvement with friends and the community continue to pile up more and more as I get older.

I found some of the ideas in this article very helpful for better using my time.

1. SAY NO.
Try “No” templates — canned responses for all the common situations where you find yourself saying no. I first heard about the idea from entrepreneur and investor Mark Suster, and it’s saved me immeasurable time and anxiety.   This lets you put the time and attention you want into crafting a response. You just don’t have to do it every time. The most important thing is that you close the door to further communication. Do it nicely in a way that truthfully explains the situation, but don’t leave things open-ended. 2. BE …

How Both Rejection and Reenforcement of the Past Affects the Present

It is remarkable how great of an impact a person's childhood has on their adulthood.

More than we realize, our expectations and reactions are shaped not on what is reasonable and right, but on how we grew up and how we have chosen, either consciously or subconsciously, to allow that growing up to form and inform our adulthood.  Wow, that's a mouthful.  Let me explain.
I grew up in a house on a pretty tight budget; for most of my life I lived in a single income home.  My dad worked hard driving a semi while my mom worked hard taking of my three siblings and I.  Because of this, I ate lots of leftovers, reused things most people throw away, and didn't take many trips or family vacations.  That wasn't bad, it was just my normal.  But now as an adult I have to chose what my new normal will be.  I have to decide if I will continue to eat leftovers, reuse as much as possible, or go on vacations.  
In thinking about this there are two ways I have found myself responding to t…

An Example of How Prophecy Can Work

Sunday at church a visitor to our church introduced herself to my wife and told my wife to write down Psalm 84:7 & 11.  My wife read the verses that night and couldn't understand why the woman would have shared them with her.   I looked up the verses myself, and made a few comments on how the verses might relate to some circumstances in Stephanie's life.   Little did I think that the verses may actually have been given by the Lord to Stephanie for me.

They go from strength to strength; each one appears before God in Zion. - Psalm 84:7 

For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly. - Psalm 84:11 

I received a text message at 6AM Monday morning from a co-worker who was going to be out sick. That meant that all the responsibility for the week lay on me and one other guy.  I would be the unplanned point person.  I spent the next 30 minutes before my shower laying in bed vacillating between…

Removing These Two Words from Your Marriage Will Instantly Improve It

I don't subscribe to vary many email newsletters and publications.  I've found that when I do, most of the things that fill up my inbox add very little value to my life.  In fact, the majority of the time they hit the 'trash' before they are even read.  However the communication I get from Refine Us Ministries is different.

The following is an excerpt of an email I recently received.  The excerpt itself is powerfully eye-opening.  I would encourage you to go to the ministry website and sign up to receive these emails yourself.  If nothing else, spend a few minutes reading their blog to see firsthand what a helpful ministry Refine Us is. There are so many things that your marriage can survive. You marriage can survive miscommunication. Your marriage can survive busy schedules. Your marriage can overcome conflict with your in-laws. Your marriage can get through sexual brokenness and unforgiveness. But, there are two words that will eventually bring an end to your marri…

Giving Rules w/o the Groundwork of a Relationship Never Works

My kids have this weird habit. Maybe your kids have/had it. They hate being told what to do. I think they got it from their mother. OK, maybe they didn’t get it from their mother. I have always disliked being told what to do. I’ve always wanted to do things my own way, which has unfortunately lead to me having to learn many lessons the hard way.

- I had to touch the stove to believe it was hot
- I had to lick the flagpole to know my tongue would stick
- I had to pee on the electric fense to find out if….ok that’s a lie, I’ll take people’s word on that one

Truth is, and I know I’m not alone in this, most people don’t like being told what to do. And this is especially true if the directions are coming from someone we don’t know or don’t trust. I saw this over and over again when I worked in retail. The giving of rules without the groundwork of relationship never works out well.

Many people have this same problem with religion. They perceive Christianity as nothing but a bunch…